On the topic of boyfriends...

I decided to share this with you ladies, keep in mind that I wrote this over a year ago. I would like each of you to feel more than welcome to share your thoughts about the below article, let me know what your convictions are.


Somewhere after "No Boys Allowed" and Boys still having these things called "cooties" is the fact that you then become aware that maybe you and your girlfriends would eventually consider getting married to a boy, who when younger ,you may have considered quite ridiculous. I'll admit that I've never had a boyfriend but I will tell you that even though I'm 16 I don't have a desire to have one. You can call me crazy, and say "Man! Is she still in third grade?" But I'm sticking to the "No Boys Allowed" (in a romantic sense) until I'm ready to get married. Below or 5 reason's why I don't do the boyfriend/girlfriend thing, this is my opinion (and excuse me but I think I'm right) as to why I don't think boyfriend's are essential to your surviving the teenage years.

1. This is the main reason that I don't want to have a boyfriend! I do not think that God intended me to go around "falling in love" with every cute guy that comes my way. One day there may be some godly and amazing guy who comes into your life who truly loves you and wants to marry you but do you want him to be constantly thinking "I wonder if she really loves me? How does she know that she likes me more than the last boyfriend she had?" I really believe that there is one guy out there who I should marry and there are a lot of guys I shouldn't so why should I be interested in them if they're not the one?

2. Boyfriends usually don't allow you to see yourself as God sees you. God made you beautiful the way you are and if me or you feel like we have to dress to impress or keep a guy's attention than the chances are that his attention's not worth having. We are to easily tempted to dress or act differently to gain status and if I have to do that to get a boyfriend then I am not pleasing the Lord.

3. Come on, admit it! Boyfriends are distracting! I'm in high school and have lots of work to do, if I was busy chatting on the phone, texting, and emailing a boy I know I wouldn't have time to excel spiritually or academically. Maybe you're not totally concerned about academic excellence at this point in your life but there may come a time that you might say "I wish I had studied more and goofed off less."

4. I've seen how so many girls and guy's react when they "break up" with a girlfriend or boyfriend and to be honest it disturbs me a lot. I don't think that God intended for me or you to have our hearts broken over and over again by some one who isn't what God may have planned for us or even wants us to be involved with. If I could just have the heartache of breaking up with a boyfriend but instead have that sort of heartbreak when some one rejects the Lord then I think my sense of loss would be worth so much more.

5. Finally and VERY importantly this is the most biblical reason as to why I don't have a boyfriend and that is because I know how easily it is to be tempted. I could be the best Christian in the world but I still could be tempted, I am not saying I would be tempted to sin in a relationship but the possibility of Satan destroying me as a Christian is there. During our teenage years I think we are more vulnerable to temptation and having a boyfriend would possibly add to any temptation that I might have. God commands us to be pure and honor his standards in all situations. Having a boyfriend (and I don't mean having just a friend who is a boy) is helping me on my way to keeping me emotionally or otherwise for the man I may one day marry.